03 Oct On Long Distance Relationship
- ·Lack of communication
The thing is, we are not only separated by thousand miles, but also the time differences. When you want to talk to him/her, ask her opinion spontaneously, you just can’t. Sometimes, you want to talk about something or share stories at that certain time, but you can’t. Your afternoon, might be his dawn. Your afternoon, might be her midnight. Then when he/she text you back five or six hours after, you’re no longer want to talk about it. You’ve lost the moment already.
Share stories about what you do today and talk about whatever, even the stupid and silly ones are important. You guys are no longer in the same environment, how can he/she knows about your day if you don’t tell that person? Believe me, he/she really wants to listen to what you’ve been through these days.
If you don’t tell that person, how could you expect he/she understand about you when that person’s not even around you? I think, once you get used to not talking to each other, it will become habit. Then you start thinking that you guys are no longer connected. It leads to another negative thoughts, Should I end this relationship?
- Warmth from other person.
Admit it, physical touch is important, especially for those whose love language is physical touch. When you’re extremely exhausted to the point that talking is also tiring, you just want to rest your head on his chest. You just want him/her to caress your head or hug you tightly. Supposedly, you can do it. Then you remember, Oh Crap, I’m in LDR!!
Then, there is this attractive young lady, funny yet a bit vulnerable. Or there is charming boy next door, mysterious yet caring at the same time. You find their presence is enjoyable. You are comfortable with them. That person is always available when you need someone to talk too. Your afternoon, is her afternoon too. Your night, is his night too! No time difference, no thousand miles distance.
You know that there’s a moderate to high chance you’d fall in love with that person. But you feel something’s intriguing. You choose to play with fire and think “It’s okay. we’re just friend.” Then, you continue seeing him/her.
Oh dude, come on! Don’t tempt yourself!!
That you chose to hug the same person all over again.